No patience

i look on here to see if anyone see's (reads) this emptiness i feel. Im trying so hard to do the things i must. Im lonely and want someone to hug me, hold me, just feel some kind of warm security. This is a terrible feeing. I dont ever wish this on anyone. I miss that feelinG of security. :(

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  1. bluevader

    After coming out of you relationship, in the circumstances you now find yourself, it is no wonder that you feel empty.

    I think we all have, at the core of our being, a kind of black hole where eternity resides, and therefore facing oneself, without any external distraction, can be a fearful thing to do.

    I think that you need to build up your own security, your own resilience, from the ground up, and that journey begins inside, with small baby steps, one step at a time, and it is good to hold goals and hopes for the future (and don’t set your targets too low!) but at the same time most of your focus should be on today so that you are not tripped up by fears of being alone in the future, for example.

    I can’t really say, for you, what those baby steps should be, but I know that from little acorns mighty oaks grow.

    It sounds like life is complicated and stressful for you at the moment, with moving house and having to make a little money go a long way.

    Try to be kind to yourself. Give yourself time to relax even if you can only spare ten or twenty minutes each day, and if relaxing is very difficult (mind won’t stop whirring round) perhaps you can try some guided meditation techniques. Perhaps offer up a prayer now and again (even if you are not religious, prayer can have powerful effects)

    Well, I know this reply is not like a real hug but I hope you can feel the spirit of a hug in the words I wrote

    July 04, 2015
  2. freedomorbondage

    I’ve been basically without a man since 2004. I know one woman who has been without one for 23 years or more. It can be done. I know what it feels like to be lonely and want to be held. It bothers me less when I focus on things that occupy my time. Try taking up a hobby, maybe. Perhaps get artistic. I haven’t done that in a while, but it does help one get through lonely times. If the man hurt you, look at things like this………He won’t anymore. I have been hurt by almost all of the men that I had ever been with or had crushes on. When I get lonely, all I have to do is listen to someone else who is struggling with a relationship and it reminds me of why I’m glad to be single. Bluevader is right in everything that he or she said. It’s going to be ok. Believe in yourself enough to at least know that you will get through this.

    July 04, 2015