How do you know

Okay...have a few questions...been on dating sites now for a bit. My thing is, okay...I have a question...if your somewhat interested in someone...do you text them? Do you let them text you? How do you do this? Do you just wait? I don't want to overwhelm them bc I am ready for something..dunno what...maybe a boyfriend. I mean, yes, i do want a boyfriend...I want someone I can text, I want someone to talk to, want someone to spend my time w. When do you tell this person that? I mean we have talked some & have met. He wants us to work but he is busy w his girls. He has children, doesn't matter. The more, the merrier. I have a problem w not knowing how much is too much, or am I not doing enough. I'm anxious bc I don't know what to do. I kinda feel like he has someone else bc in one of our conversations he mentioned that the guys he works w have a wife & girlfriend. I can't remember what that was about but the part bout girlfriend & wife in the same sentence kinda stuck in my head. I guess bc I have met a few ppl that are seperated(supposedly) & I am at their convenience, maybe, sometimes. I know, I know stupid girl(women). I just like talking to them, him. I'm confused..I don't like feeling like this but I am the one who put myself here. So please be gentle with your words as I am softhearted...Thank you in advance...:•/

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Comments (11)

  1. wirelessguru1

    Well does he take you out dancin’ just so he can hold you close?

    December 26, 2015
    1. showerstoflowers

      Haven’t made it to that point yet.

      December 26, 2015
      1. wirelessguru1

        So you are not enchanted yet!

        December 26, 2015
        1. showerstoflowers

          I really like him. I haven’t gotten to enchanted yet, but, he seems to be a keeper…but..only time can tell.

          December 27, 2015
    2. showerstoflowers

      He hasn’t taken me dancing & he told me he doesn’t dance, but, he did say he will dance w me if I want to dance. Hehe…made my day when he said that to me. I had the giggles…he doesn’t know that bc we are texting each other.

      December 27, 2015
  2. wirelessguru1

    He’ll find his own way to tell you
    With the little things he’ll do
    That’s how you know
    That’s how you know!

    December 26, 2015
    1. showerstoflowers

      He texted me.

      December 26, 2015
    2. showerstoflowers

      He texted me! Hehe…I waited till like the middle of the afternoon & he texted. I was so happy, excited. I was proud of myself too.

      December 27, 2015
  3. bluevader

    I think, first and foremost, be yourself… Don’t try to second-guess anything: simply be true to who you are and the rest will work itself out: a few light texts are ok, and if they become deeper in meaning, then even better! From the text above it sounds to me like he may be interested too

    December 29, 2015
  4. thedilatorywriter

    This advice maybe a little late but I’d just send him the signals that you’re interested. If he is as well, he will make the effort. If he doesn’t then he doesn’t deserve your time! I just believe that if you’re interested, you’re going to find the time. Like for example, he is driving to get his kids for the weekend, he will send you a text, “hope you have a great weekend!” Or after the kids bed down on Saturday night – “How was your day? Mine was super busy!” It’s those things that let you know he is thinking about you.

    December 30, 2015
    1. showerstoflowers

      He is interested, I think. I am a lil pushy. I wish I wasn’t but I told him that yesterday & he joked it off, like he said yeah think…i giggled. He laughs a lot w me & smiles a lot. It makes me feel good.

      January 09, 2016